How To Get Over That Sour Miserable Mood You're In

Mick

Oct 31

Becoming moody which turns miserable is now a common malady in our busy hectic life, as everyone at one time or another feels grumpy. What usually happens is the bad mood we're in, is expressed outwardly to anyone who crosses our path.

There's no quick fix for moodiness, when it comes to feeling the blues as it can suddenly haunt us, but there are ways to overcome it faster.

What's known is that humans are meant to connect, so it's best to find a social support network.

This connection provides comfort, once we begin to fall apart, begin to pout a bit, at the cellular level.

What moodiness does is dulls down cognition, the immune system deteriorates, the aging process accelerates. Being moody results in high blood pressure, while gene expression lowers.

The reason for this is the constant pounding and corrosive presence of the stress hormones.

Seek Social Outreach

Feeling alone when in the dumps isn't considered a personality disorder or weakness. It's rather a core survival impulse similar to thirst or hunger.

A trigger which activates us towards emotional nourishment, is human companionship.

So the best resolve is to call a close friend or family member, and then get together for a coffee, go for a hike, or meet for a bike ride at the park.

Taking time out to go volunteer or help others in need, can make a difference.

Never Feel Like A Victim

Despite your past, your rocky childhood or poor life experiences, you're now strictly responsible for the choices you make as an adult.

Although trauma and tragedy may have altered your vision of the world, or your ability to trust others, never see yourself as a victim.

Instead, choose to take responsibility of your life. Flick the switch from being a victim to a survivor, and feel empowered.

Rather than seeking retribution over those who wronged you, seek redemption. Refuse to flounder in self-pity by focusing on comforting others.

Realize there's always someone who's fighting a battle greater than your own.

What's known is a victim will give up at the first sign of struggle, while a survivor overcomes failure.

Avoid Ruminating

What ruminating means, is constantly analyzing and regurgitating an issue at length, which is usually emotional in nature, and you won't let it go.

What's known is rumination occurs as a reaction to sadness, or when focusing on angry emotions.

Most who ruminate will remain in a moody rut, because their particular negative outlook does is hinders their ability to solve the problem.

Just remind yourself ruminating doesn't increase insight, so take small positive action steps towards problem solving.

Let go of all those unattainable or unhealthy goals, while developing multiple sources of social support.

Focus On Right Now

As bad as your life may appear, you're hanging in there, and this isn't by chance. Just remember we humans are extremely resilient and capable.

What feeling down can do is cloud judgment, as it becomes easy to overemphasize the negative, while ignoring the positives.

At the end of the day, write down at least three things you did well that day, something right you accomplished.

There's no need or point to overthink what they are, as nothing is ever too small.

Stop Living In The Past

The time that's spent recreating or reliving the past, is similar to buying a one-way ticket to the depths of despair.

What dwelling on past failures does, is threatens your emotional well-being.

Self-loathing or blaming others won't make you feel any better, any more than thinking the answer can be found at the bottom of a wine glass.

You can't improve your life, if you don't bother changing your thought process. What forward thinking does is commits you to a new way of being.

What living in the past does is takes up too much mental real estate, so you need to rewire your thought process.

All what past regrets does, is robs you of your resolve to do things better in the present.

Tomorrow Never Comes

Living in the past leads to depression, while worrying about the future creates unnecessary anxiety.

What frustration and stress does, is causes feelings of becoming overwhelmed by uncertainty.

You become what you think. So those who chronically worry, every headache turns into a migraine, every romantic rejection is proof they're destined for a life of being alone.

So instead, have faith in the uncertainty of life, by believing in fate. Cultivate a state of mindfulness daily.

What intentionally redirecting your mind to what's happening right now, does is increases your mental energy, which allows you to do things you want.

Incorporate Daily Structure

What not having a daily schedule of activities, while inconsistently and haphazardly doing things unplanned, does is increases the feeling of helplessness.

What not having goals and a things to-do list, does is dwells on a sense of losing control over your life.

What planning your day does is helps you manage your time better, while regaining control and decreasing the feeling you're a passive redundant participant in life.

Develop a method which helps you structure while assessing whether your time is well-spent, based on your mood and productivity.

Segment your day into six categories:

• Early morning, which is before 10AM
• Late morning (10AM - 12PM)
• Early afternoon (12PM - 3PM)
• Late afternoon (3PM - 5PM)
• Evening (5PM - 8PM), and
• Night (8PM until bedtime)

Plan the next day by filling in these time segments the night before, by writing down your tasks for the next day.

Then write down at the end of the day what you actually did, and if it's different from the to-do list.

Document how you felt, rate your mood on a scale of 1-10, then create a to-do list for the next day.