To earn instant respect, you don't need to pull a rabbit out of a hat or walk the red carpet. Ever noticed how some people seem to naturally draw attention and command respect the moment they enter a room? It's not wizardry, nor do you need to be the next big screen sensation to pull it off.
Here are seven savvy, research-backed strategies that can elevate how people perceive and respect you:
1. Elevate Your First Impression Game
First impressions are like quick snapshots. Whether you are in an interview, or out on a date, people decide if they're into you or not in a blink. They make snap judgments.
One massive lever directly in your control to influence those judgments is your wardrobe. A study published in the Journal of Fashion Marketing and Management found that what you wear seriously affects how people see you, especially in professional settings. They're not just looking at your clothes, but how confident you seem in them.
No need to be a red-carpet regular to ace this. Just dress a notch above what the occasion demands. I am not recommending switching to luxury or super-premium brands. Wear clothes that boost your confidence and add to your personality.
Think Steve Jobs with his iconic black turtleneck—it wasn't over the top, but it sure made him stand out. Find that sweet spot between brand and body fit, and make it your signature.
2. Command Your Space
Did you catch the interview where Elon Musk schooled a BBC reporter for making allegations without any solid proof? Or the video clip where when Musk straight-up told Disney to f*** off for dropping ads from X?
Besides his intellectual chops, what else did strike you? To me, it was his posture. He's got this way of making sure you know he means business, just by the way he sits or stands.
Don't get me wrong. I am not saying you should sprawl out like you own the place but you should always send a message through your posture that you're comfortable in your skin. Sit in your chair like it was made just for you. Stand in a way that says you're not just passing through, you're exactly where you're supposed to be.
For example, a study published in Psychological Science showed that standing or sitting in a way that takes up more space can make you feel and act more powerful. It says that people who adopted "power poses" felt more confident and even did better in job interviews.
3. Master the Art of Platonic Touch
Research has long supported the idea that physical touch can significantly impact human connections.
A study published in the journal "Emotion" by Matthew Hertenstein, an experimental psychologist at DePauw University, demonstrated that we can communicate emotions through touch accurately.
Even leaders like Richard Branson have often spoken about the power of a handshake or a casual pat on the back in building rapport and trust within their teams. Oprah Winfrey provides a masterclass in using touch to build warmth and trust. She often greets her guests with a hug, a touch on the arm, or a pat on the back, using touch as a way to break down barriers.
Now the lingering question is: how much of a touch is enough? As long as you stick to non-intimate areas like shoulders or arms, keep it brief (no lingering!), and be consistent with everyone, you will avoid the creep label.
4. Don't Get Steamrolled in Conversations
Most people think it is polite to stop talking if someone interrupts them in a conversation. But if you let someone steamroll you and shut you up, then you are signaling that their opinions take precedence over yours.
A 2007 study by Ames and Flynn investigated assertiveness and its impact on leadership perceptions. They found that individuals who are assertive in communication, are more likely to be perceived as leaders.
Watch Donald Trump - a figure who elicits strong opinions - in discussions with other world leaders. He always communicates his thoughts without being overshadowed.
To cut a long story short: you should always finish your sentence even when there is another person in the room trying to cut you off or walk over you. Continue unfazed, finish off what you want to say, and then defer.
5. Be Generous with Praise (Even to Rivals)
Being nice and saying good things about others, even those you're competing with, is a smart move that's proven by research. There's this study from 2004 by Tjosvold, Hui, and Ding that says when you recognize what your rivals are good at, it can make things less tense and help everyone get along better. Smart politicians often do that.
When you do this at work or with friends, it changes the game from "me against you" to "let's work together."
By cheering for others' wins, you show you're a true leader, someone to look up to and listen to. This way of doing things can position you as someone who knows how to rise above small disagreements and see the big picture.
6. Own Your Flaws
Ever watched the final rap battle in "8 Mile" with Eminem and this other guy? Eminem's character wins by actually talking about his own mistakes and tough times before anyone else can. It's like he takes away the other guy's ammo by saying, "Yeah, I know about my problems, so what?" This is a smart move because it shows he's strong enough to admit his flaws.
And it's not just in movies. Russell Brand, a famous comedian, does the same thing. He's open about the ups and downs in his life, even the mess-ups, especially in his comedy. By doing this, he makes those parts of his story his strength.
Studies show that when people are honest about their flaws, others see them as more relatable and trustworthy. For example, several studies by researchers from Harvard Business School have found that when leaders are open about their weaknesses, it makes their teams trust them more and work better together.
Embracing your flaws and being open about them can be a superpower. It not only makes you look brave and strong but also helps you win people over and turn what you might think are weaknesses into your biggest strengths.
7. Be A Master Listener
While researching for this post, I came across this stupendous 1957 study conducted by Harvard Business Review. It underlined that leaders who listen well are way more effective than those who don't.
Listening isn't just about staying quiet while the other person talks, it's about really understanding their point of view, asking questions, and getting to the heart of what they're saying.
One individual who particularly excelled in this regard was Nelson Mandela. His proficiency in listening was remarkable.
He made it a point to listen to everyone, including his adversaries, to grasp their perspectives thoroughly. This attribute contributed to his exceptional leadership. Mandela understood that unity begins with listening, and he adeptly applied this principle.
Start implementing these 7 science-backed techniques today and take the first step towards commanding the respect you deserve. After all, respect isn't just handed to you—it's something you can actively cultivate.
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